Does my cat really want us to watch him eat?

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Does my cat really want us to watch him eat?

Updated Dec 8, 2024

Dear Cathy,

Oliver is our three year old cat. He was rescued at about eight weeks old. He has grown to become a happy, healthy and very playful adult cat. However, he has one odd behavior that we don’t understand. Before he approaches his food bowls, he will meow at whatever family member is nearby to come and stand next to him while he eats. Sometimes while he is eating, he’ll look up to make sure the person is still there and can be reassured with a little pet. If the person is otherwise preoccupied, he’ll just sit there and meow until they come. This behavior isn’t really an inconvenience, rather, we find it kind of amusing. We are just curious why he behaves this way. My daughter’s theory is that he wants someone to “watch his back” while he’s eating.

– Sandy, Seaford, New York

Dear Sandy,

Your daughter’s theory is likely correct. Cats are always on the lookout for danger, falling asleep throughout the day, but always ready to pounce at a moment’s notice. When they are eating, they are vulnerable, so Oliver is simply asking your family to “watch his back,” as you say.

Most cats, however, don’t refuse to eat unless a family member is around. But when a cat can communicate his wishes and get his family to comply, I consider the cat highly-intelligent and the family highly-intuitive. I love that your family responds to him and stands with him while he eats. Oliver’s very lucky to have such a loving and perceptive family.

Cathy M. Rosenthal is a longtime animal advocate, children’s author, syndicated pet columnist, and pet expert with more than 30 years in the animal welfare field. Send your pet questions, stories and tips to moc.tidnuptepobfsctd-185e6f@yhtac. Please include your name, city, and state. You can follow her @cathymrosenthal

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Cathy M. Rosenthal is an award-winning humane educator and author, animal welfare strategist, pet columnist, and speaker who has spent more than 38 years working in animal welfare with local and national humane organizations. She helps people better understand and care for animals through her nationally syndicated My Pet World column and has been the longtime pet columnist for the San Antonio Express-News since 2003.

In addition to her writing, Cathy develops humane education, leadership, customer service, and compassion fatigue training programs for animal welfare organizations nationwide, and has helped raise millions of dollars through grant writing, strategic communications, and program development.

Cathy is the editor and curator of Humane Perspectives: Leadership in Animal Welfare and is the author of several books, including Grant Writing Boot Camp for Animal AdvocatesThe Lucky Tale of Two Dogs, and The Happy Tale of Two Cats, which was the 2026 winner of the Association of Professional Humane Educators’ (APHE) "Educator’s Choice Award" for Best Humane Education Book for Young Children. She also received the 2026 APHE Nathania Gartman Heroes Award for Impact in Humane Education. Her humane education programs in Texas have reached more than 45,000 elementary school children since 2019.

She resides in Texas with her husband, their cat Sterling, and a former community cat, Maddie, who successfully negotiated an indoor living arrangement but still considers human affection highly negotiable.

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